ego needs

基本解释

It is entirely possible to set aside one's ego needs in order to discipline and train children.
为了教导和训练孩子，放下小我的需求是绝对必要的。
Remember that the ego needs problems, conflict, and "enemies" to strengthen the sense of separateness on which its identity depends.
记住，自我需要问题、冲突和‘敌人’来强化它身份赖以生存的孤立感。
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The thinking here is that when someone’s ego needs stroking it’s as if you were flattening down their raised hackles or smoothing their feathers.
这里的想法是，当某人需要培养自尊心，他们就会设想仿佛有人正在抚平他们的羽毛，平复他们的怒气。

So tell my superman any time he needs his ego stroked all he has to do is say those 3 little words and let me know he is ready to give up caring about what the world thinks and explore a new fronteer in what we can build together because I dont want to grow old without him.
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